I dislike the terms pro-life vs pro-choice because frankly, with precious few exceptions, nobody is really in favor in an increase in the number of abortions. Everyone wants that number to go down. The questions really stem from what control we want government to have in our lives and more importantly, what is the safest, most effective way to deal with the issue of abortions and to reduce their numbers dramatically.
Forgive me, if you will, this analogy: But I have the legal right to empty the contents of a jar of chunky peanut butter into my underwear and walk around town that way every day of my life, but I don’t. Nor do I want to (had to make that clear since I am crazy enough to want to be president of the United States). No one has to make a law forbidding me from using peanut butter that way. It’s just absurd to think I would ever even consider it.
So far as I am concerned, the most effective and safest way to lower the number of abortions in our nation is not by creating a law, but by changing the culture in such a way as to make the very notion of abortions as absurd to the average person as the idea of walking around town with our underwear filled with peanut butter.
We do that in a few ways:
Firstly, we have got to stop slut shaming people for enjoying the biological function of sex. Look; sex is fun. I have had more than my fair share with more than my fair share of partners and that’s included members of more than just one gender. I have no apologies to make for that because my sexuality is mine and is not anyone else’s business. I am as big a slut as I know. And I am not ashamed of it.
If I am going to sit on my high horse and say that women should have control of their own bodies when it comes to abortion (which I do) I am also going to have to respect that same woman’s unabashed right to sleep with whomever she wants and to take part in whatever vocation she chooses, etc. I cannot simultaneously claim a woman’s rights to her own body and condone or participate in slut shaming in any fashion. It has no place and should be given no quarter in a land that claims it values liberty.
Secondly, we have got to build a culture that celebrates life. We have to learn, as an act of our will, to be more excited for the incoming of a new baby than we are disappointed for the difficulties involved with having one earlier in life than we’d hoped.
Thirdly, we have to structure support systems so that young or unprepared expectant mothers feel like they not only have systems in place to help them and their babies succeed, but that they feel they would be depriving their support systems of the joy of new life if they were to choose, instead, abortion.
I am not for any more government intrusion into our lives than is absolutely necessary and prudent. I don’t want more abortions taking place. I want fewer. But I don’t think changing the law will result in anything other than making the procedure less safe – and I believe there is a better way.
We are a better people than the people we’ve been and the first step in handling the abortion question in America is once and for all offering women the dignity as a culture of truly respecting their rights to their own bodies in all aspects of their lives.
Let’s stop slut shaming and let’s make contraceptives less embarrassing and let’s promote a culture of life. Then, let’s see where we are on abortion. Until we do those things, abortion is really a side issue – a symptom of a greater root problem. As president, that will be my push. That will be my argument. That will be my mission.